As fairly strict Christians, we have rules about both of our children's dating habits that we have decided upon through prayer and what we believe to be sound advice.  We allow group/friend 'dates' where boys and girls get to know each other without the romantic overtones and pressures of one on one dating.  Especially while they are still so young. 

After reading several good books on the subject, DD decided to keep her heart and mind pure and her heart and emotions safe from serious relationships that inevitably end up in painful break ups at this age.  She would like to do this by refraining from kissing, hand holding, and also avoiding what I call "booby hugs"  where the boys like to get a thrill from very close face to face hugging or dancing.  (DD was invited to a public school homecoming dance by two of her girlfriends who attend there. She made the boys keep a respectable distance from her body while dancing.) Boys can simply go to webcam girls sites or webcam tube sites. How can a girl compete?

She has had several boys ask her out, went on one innocent date and then was completely dumped by her two best guy friends who are 13 and 14.  They refused to stop 'fake slapping' her and continued to use the foulest language in front of her (as a tool of abuse, imo) simply because they knew it was disrespectful and offensive to her.  After the complete breakdown of the friendship the 13 yo boy emailed her with details of what he does during his visits with what he calls 'the pope' in the shower!  This is so extremely different from the nice funny persona he presented to us. She broke off the friendships completely and doesn't see them anymore.